Yay, back to school time!!
The stores have us in the mid-set that “back to school” means freshly sharpened pencils, crisp new clothes and brand new shoes. There must be a snazzy new backpack, bright new spiral bound notebooks and never-used crayons. All the kids in the ads look like there is no better place to be than at school, decked out head-in-toe in shiny new stuff!
Sure, new stuff might soften the landing a bit for kids who are reluctant and cranky about starting the new school year. But what if you don’t need anything to buy anything new this year? What if the school stuff they were just using back in June is still fine and acceptable for September?
I think all kids love getting brand new stuff but it’s certainly not always necessary, especially if what they have is still in usable condition. Why waste money buying or replacing items that are truly good and usable just because it’s what you’ve “always done” or because the stores are having a sale!
Here are my top tips on how not to get sucked into the Back to School buying trap!
Assess what you already have & what you truly need to replace
BACKPACKS & LUNCH BAGS
- Inspect the current backpack. Are straps, zippers and hooks all in good working order? Sometimes all the backpack needs is a good washing! During the year, I have my kids completely clean out their backpacks every two weeks and we toss them into the laundry. Upkeep is important during the entire year to keep items in good working condition. If the backpack is truly broken or has an unrepairable rip or tear, then it’s time to toss and buy new.
- Consider purchasing a quality backpack that will get your student through multiple years and has a guarantee. I bought my son’s backpack from L.L. Bean before he started 3rd grade and he’s starting 5th this year and his backpack still looks perfect! (And you have to know how rough boys are with their stuff!). My daughter also has a backpack from L.L. Bean and the hanging strap frayed towards the end of the year. I was able to exchange for a brand new one! Buy the best you can afford and don’t waste money buying something cheap that you’ll have to replace mid-year.
- Lunch bags should be washed every week during the school year to keep them sanitary and in good condition. Treat stains right away to avoid them setting in. If the hook & loop closure, zipper or snaps are broken off and can’t be repaired or there is a funky smell that doesn’t dissipate with washing, it’s time to buy a new one. Consider making your own with cotton or oilcloth fabrics so you have a spare if one is left at school.
- Every page used up in the spiral notebook? Okay, time to buy a new one. Only half the pages used? Rip out the used pages and finish up with it before buying another.
- Broken crayons or paper peeled off? Relegate them to the arts and crafts bin at home or toss them out. Gently used crayons that still work just fine? Keep ’em and there is no need to buy a new box. Same goes for pencils, pens, glue, glue sticks and erasers! If they are still in usable condition then just keep using them.
- Folders with rips can be repaired and reinforced along the spine with a strip of colorful duct tape. Decorate the fronts with markers or washi tape.
- Plastic pencil boxes often just need a cleaning (run it through the dishwasher after wiping it out). A good scrubbing with a Magic Eraser will bring it back to like-new condition. Colorful stickers decorating the top will make it “new to you”.
CLOTHES AND SHOES
- Pants with blown-out knees beyond repair or that are now high-water length should either be tossed into the rag bin or delegated to donation. Tees and sweaters with unfixable holes, unsightly stains or that are too short at the waist or sleeves face the same fate. Socks that are too small, have holes or that are heavily stained make good cleaning rags. Underpants that are too tight or have stretched out elastic should be thrown out.
- Based on what is still in the closet and drawers, assess the need for additional items at that point. Kids probably don’t need more than 7 of each daily wear item (one for each day of the week), so 7 long sleeved tees, 7 short sleeved, 7 pairs of pants, etc. We definitely have more shirts than this…I don’t particularly like to see my kids wearing the same shirts every week so I give them a bit more variety on top. They do only each have one coat & one sweatshirt each. I rarely buy them brand new clothes at the store any more unless it’s something like a Christmas or birthday gift. When I buy new items, I shop either at Gymboree or Tea Collection. Both are high quality clothes that resist stains (and both sites have great sales throughout the year). I buy gently used clothing at the local thrift store or online at ThredUp.
- Shoes with holes or completely worn out soles should be thrown out. Put decent but dirty shoes into the washing machine or the sink for a scrubbing. Finish by cleaning up the rubber with a Magic Eraser to bring them back to life. Replace frayed or stained shoe laces with bright new ones.
- It’s tempting to buy cheap shoes when your kid’s feet are growing! I recommend buying high quality shoes that will last until your child outgrows them. I have personally had great luck with Pediped shoes. My stepdaughter wore her pair every school for a year. I was able to toss them into the wash every other week and only when they were getting tight did they develop a small hole in the sole. I definitely recommend paying a little more for one or two fantastic pairs of shoes (rather than 5 or 10 pairs of cheap and poorly made shoes that will need constant replacing).
Discuss it with your kids
If your kids are accustomed to getting brand new stuff every year but this year they don’t truly need anything, you’ll need to address this with them upfront. Kids are going to expect the regular back-to-school shopping extravaganza and if it’s not going to happen this could set them up for disappointment. You’re going to have some very disgruntled kids going back to school with “the same old stuff”. Been there, done that and heard it all!
- Involve your kids in the assessing process. Discuss how the closet full of clothes still fit, are in good shape & will be acceptable for them right now.
- Allow kids to decorate last year’s pencil boxes or folders with fun washi tape, duct tape or stickers.
- Attach a fun key chain or fob to the zipper pull to freshen up last year’s backpack or hoodie.
- Compromising by purchasing one new (or “new to them”) outfit for the first day of school and to wear for school pictures.
Divert the focus
Get back to the heart of what going back to school is all about and take the focus off the need for new stuff. Start a first day tradition! Take pictures of your new student. Cook a special first day breakfast or dinner. Greet them with balloons on the front door when they get home. Create a first day interview that you can save in your memory box. Serve a special dessert. Just make the day special for them! Here’s to new adventures…even while wearing last school year’s shoes!
Handy Links –
Backpacks – L.L. Bean
Gently Used Clothing – ThredUp
Shoes – Pediped shoes
Pinterest – Back to School Photo Ideas
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